With the flurry of summer weddings and the potential ruling and passing of the gay marriage amendment the end of this month….love is in the air.
But when you marry or are in relationship, there are often more than two people in the bed. Normally the couple and both sets of parents are present. Oh my!! Not literally, but figuratively. If we bring our “baggage” into relationship, there is not much room for the couple to flourish.
How do you get rid of these familial bedfellows? By clearing your past. The only reason anyone would drag their parents or anyone from the past along into a relationship is that there is unfinished business.
The past infiltrates our present in areas such as the way we treat our partner, the method in which we communicate, how we react when we argue…all have roots in the way we were brought up or what we witnessed our own parents or past partners act. Whose voice are you hearing during an argument with your partner? Is it them talking or is it your mother?
I realize that someone telling you to clear the past may seem simplistic or the other extreme…well “duh”. Most of us don’t know how or even where to begin. But I do and I can help lead you in your journey to understand the past and move forwards in the future.
Check out my video to see how.
If you are ready to get your parents and all other players out of your relationship, contact me for a free coaching call to discuss. This is not limited to people in relationships…no better time than the present to clear away the past to prepare you for the perfect partner!!
Becky Arrington is a Clinical Alchemical Hypnotherapist and Life Altering Coach with programs and techniques to help you clear limiting beliefs and past traumas that keep you from living your life to its fullest potential. Through a variety of programs and techniques, she can help you experience freedom and joy. Contact today for a free consultation.
Poised at the station
she sits amongst her luggage,
all worldly possessions
complete with an emotional dowry.
Her parents did the packing.
Familiar objects and ideas
lovingly stacked and packed,
bound and wrapped
boxes filled with secrets tight.
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Long held thoughts
don’t easily adapt to chips or change.
comes to collect his
Stunned at the degree of her attachments.
Steamer trunks and cases tall
he begins to lift the load.
Unaware of the weight
these burdens will bear.
Safely swathed in marital bliss,
she slowly unpacks her
Searching for comfort amongst the longheld
wardrobe of her life.
Expectantly she dons a frock
sewn with patterns from her past.
The comfort of the dysfunctional dress
timeworn and fraught
gives way to a
longing for familiar fabric.
Timidly she walks down the catwalk
of their relationship
modeling this dated fashion
woven from emotional cloth,
loosely stitched, unraveling at the seams
turning and swaying
it appears to be the latest collection.
He illicits a mild response, a
of fashion apathy.
Freeing her to become
the designer of
their wedded wardrobe.
Unpacking garments seamed by guardians,
she tucks and pleats
adapting to a new figure.
Time evolves giving way to a fuller closet
straining under the binding apparel
designed from the tapestry of her past….
he pleads for a looser fit.
She, unwilling to discard the textiled security
they continue in pinched attire.
Seams bursting, they have outgrown the
material of their marriage.
Armoires full of too tight garb
give way to the ultimate
Garments are removed from hangers,
inspected by both for potential patching.
Decisions ripped from long held
hems of familiarity,
loose threads of idealism
no longer stitched.
Ability to purge
conflicts with a
compulsive attachment to emotional dress.
She clings to frayed fragments
sewn from familial fabric.
He longs for the crispness
of freshly washed ideals.
new wardrobe needed.
He shops alone.
By Becky Arrington